06.13.2019 (96 Days Ago)
The Cut
The Cut
96 days ago 6 comments Categories: Lifestyle Tags:

We recently attended a destination wedding. It was extended family. As with many destination weddings, the “events” often consist of more than the actual wedding ceremony and reception.
Due to restrictions and/or limitations on the hosts that we were not privy to, we weren’t included in the welcome dinner. Not sure where the line was drawn; but for whatever reasons, we “didn’t make the cut”.
(Yes, that was actually said to us.)
We were determined to enjoy our weekend and move past any discomfort. By complete coincidence, we happened to be eating in the same restaurant as the dinner was held in a private room downstairs. Family members who “made the cut” had to stop at our table on the way to the rest rooms. We were able to eat what we wanted and say hello on our turf. We ate the desert we ordered rather than the selection that was delivered from the private room (an offering?).
Any insult that lingered from not being included faded and was replaced by a controlled detachment.
Not "making the cut" turned out to be just fine.

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  •  Fred wrote 96 Days Ago (negative) 
    You are a far better man than me...
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  •  CarlyMeyer wrote 96 Days Ago (neutral) 
    Wow...You handled that very well. There would probably be some retaliation on my part. Maybe a retracted gift....I hope you drank their wine and danced the night away!
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  •  Liz_Saldana wrote 96 Days Ago (neutral) 
    Maybe it a redhead thing; but I agree with Carly. I highly doubt, am almost positive, I would not have handled it as graciously as you did.
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  •  Flo_Feinberg wrote 96 Days Ago (neutral) 
    Actually Ben and I enjoyed the discomfort which was evident when our hosts sat down at our little table to make small talk; as it turned out the event was limited to friends of the the bride and groom and siblings of the parents....everyone else was on their own.
    And we will still have the opportunity for sweet revenge.....it's not quite over!!
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  •  StevenReisner wrote 96 Days Ago (neutral) 
    I really do understand friends of the bride & groom and family. NOT at all sure I understand telling you that you "didn't make the cut".

    Also, knowing you - I am not at all surprised by your grace under the circumstances.
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  •  MarilynGenoa wrote 95 Days Ago (neutral) 
    It appears that it could’ve been handled in a much more tactful manner Certainly could’ve been handled graciously by explaining to the guests not participating what the evening before was about perhaps including the opportunity to gather together after dinner. Never helps to simmer and I know how gracious the two of you are —-I would probably in my follow up after the wedding say something about how lovely the weekend was but how a misunderstanding could have led to other differences. Perhaps next time they’ll be more careful with their words
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