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Suspended Aggravation
Suspended Aggravation
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Last weekend we went for lunch in Huntington and when the check came the server explain that the Internet was down and asked me to write my phone number and credit card info on the check. I did so and in all the unusual hurly-burly I forgot to take back my credit card. This is one of the most annoying things I do. It is a failure of concentration which plagues me about once a year.  I hate it!

On the way home we stopped in nearby Cold Spring Harbor for fancy coffee and a delish warmed chocolate croissant, which I always look forward to. However, when I went to pay I discovered that my credit card was missing and I immediately flashed back to the hurly burly at the restaurant. My first impulse was to rush back to reclaim it at the restaurant, but I was pleasantly surprised to find myself in a state of suspended aggravation.

Suspended animation? That too, as my angst side tracked and I allowed myself to savor the coffee and as I wolfed down the delicious croissant.

All‘s well that ends well, as my credit card was recovered on the double back and I realized that I had experienced a new and unique state of bliss, which I coined Suspended Aggravation!

Suspended Aggravation... Think of it, If I could bottle it, I could make millions!


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  •  Paul_Napolitano wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Victoria taught me to ask myself “Is this aggravating thing going to matter in five minutes, five hours, five days, five years?“ it teaches you to pause and really think how important it is to be aggravated about such an event.
     
       
     
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  •  Fred wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Meant Didi
     
       
     
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  •  Benjamin_Geizhals wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    An important lesson. Being in the moment and knowing that things can wait.
     
       
     
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  •  Victoria_Drogin wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Love it!! Suspended Aggravation! Viktor Frankl says there is a space between the stimulus and the response where we, as human beings, get to choose our response. And that is where we define and design the meaning in our lives. Love love love it!
     
       
     
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  •  Judy_Mauer wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    A+ !
     
       
     
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  •  Liz_Saldana wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Suspended Aggravation...maybe you should copyright the phrase and start a lecture on the practice. :)
     
       
     
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  •  NSpizz wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Years ago it was called count to 10
     
       
     
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  •  Daniel_Schwartz wrote 10 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Glad you could stop and and enjoy the coffee. I likely would have left in a huff. Hard for me to suspend the feeling. But I am working on it.
     
       
     
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  •  Kelly_Welles wrote 9 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Well done! Seriously. So many punish themselves unnecessarily because they fail to recognize and make that choice. Hats off!
     
       
     
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  •  Rona_Gura wrote 9 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Nice. . .
     
       
     
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  •  Amparo_Connors wrote 9 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Excellent reminder to "not sweat the small stuff"; glad I'm not the only one in this boat...but now you have me yearning for a warm chocolate croissant!
     
       
     
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  •  Odey_Raviv wrote 9 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    So much negativity around--Too easy to get sucked in--
    Minimize the annoyances and Maximize the enjoyment!
     
       
     
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  •  NeilHollander wrote 9 Days Ago (neutral) 
     
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    Good one . A reservoir of anxious moments . My psyche is black and white . I hate gray . I also quest to be 100% in control of my affairs . A credit card floating in the wind would drive me bat shit crazy . But not before I “ wolfed down “ a chocolate croissant . No loose ends for me . Maybe it was my career ? No wiggle room for mistakes . Habit patterns . Patting my wallet . Checking for car keys . A checklist to get me thru the day . But we both know people that are unphased by stuff like this . People that never know where their wallet or car keys are . For days . Does it all come down to what degree of control we will accept ? Suspending your aggravation is highly commendable . Keep it up . After all this is “ The Afterlife .” No place for neurotics .

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