[Fredslist] FW: Your best friend is comfortable with your past;
your mentor is comfortable with your future
Linda Queenie Newman
lindarnewman at verizon.net
Wed Mar 14 08:50:15 EDT 2007
Good Morning Along the Network,
Please see below sent to me by Mentor and Gotham Member, Gary Anzalone.
Gary was the first Mentor match I made as Co-Chair of Gotham's Mentoring
Program. Gary is Alex Klein's Mentor. Alex Klein is Gotham's Creative
Director. (A most wonderful combination!)
For those of you interested in having a Mentor or being a Mentor, please
contact me by e-mail.
Best,
Linda, Co-Chair
Gotham Mentoring Program
Linda R. Newman
Third Generation Insurance Broker
lindarnewman at verizon.net
www.ssfinsurance.com
-----Original Message-----
From: Gary Anzalone [mailto:gma59 at optonline.net]
Sent: Tuesday, March 13, 2007 11:58 PM
To: Linda Newman; Fred Klein
Subject: Your best friend is comfortable with your past; your mentor is
comfortable with your future
This is long, but thought you both would find it interesting. Gary
"The Tuesday Tip"
> March 13, 2007
>
> Publisher: Dr. Alan Zimmerman
> Contact: Alan at DrZimmerman.com
> Telephone: (800) 621-7881
> Web site: www.DrZimmerman.com
> Pass It On -- Please
>
> To read the Tuesday Tip in HTML format, click here
> http://www.drzimmerman.com/tuesdaytip.htm
>
> Dr. Alan Zimmerman's Comment:
>
> Life is short. We simply don't have enough time to learn everything
> we need to know all by ourselves.
>
> And we don't have enough stamina to learn everything the hard way ...
> through trial and error. But that's what ignorant people do. They
> give it a try to see if it works.
>
> The really smart, successful people rely on O.P.E. -- Other People's
> Experience. They know they don't have to go through colossal failure
> to learn a lesson. They can shorten their learning curve by accessing
> the wisdom, knowledge, and experience of others who have gone before them.
>
> The really smart people have mentors or coaches. Look around. The
> top athletes continue to work with coaches. And the top business
> people seek out mentors. I know I do. For nine years I have met with
> eight of the finest speakers and consultants in the world -- a group
> called Master Speakers International. And I can trace more personal
> and professional growth to that experience than anything else I have ever
done.
>
> What about you? Do you have a coach ... or a mentor ... or a group of
> such people? Do you consult with them regularly? It's one of the
> secrets of every highly successful individual.
>
> So let's explore the role of a possible mentor in your life. But
> first you may wonder,
>
> => 1. Why do you need a mentor?
>
> Because ... no matter how well you know yourself, you're always going
> to have blind spots. You're going to miss some things that you should
> know -- whether from oversight, ignorance, or bias.
>
> If you don't believe it, take this test. Look at a team photo that
> includes you. Does your liking of the photo depend on how good you
> look ... no matter how everyone else looks? Of course. Even if the
> other people had their eyes closed or a piece of spinach in their
> teeth, if you looked good, you'd probably think it was a pretty good
> picture. You're bound to be a bit prejudiced.
>
> A mentor, on the other hand, would help you see the photo more
> objectively. He might ask, "Who's the picture for? How's it going to
> be used? And does that particular photo project the image of your
> team that you want to project?"
>
> A mentor will help you discern the truth. But you ask,
>
> => 2. How is a mentor different than a teacher?
>
> There are several differences. Teachers love learning. Mentors love
> learners. In other words, when you have a mentor, he or she cares
> about you ... not just the stuff you're learning. (And for the sake
> of clarity, I speak to a lot of classroom teachers, and many of them
> are both teachers and mentors. They're professionals in every sense
> of the word, and they love their students.)
>
> Such was the case years ago in a particular orphanage. Someone came
> in and asked, "Is there any orphan here that nobody wants?" The
> matron answered, "Indeed there is. She's ten years old, ugly to look
> at and has a very horrible hunchback. In fact, the only decent thing
> about her is her name -- Mercy Goodfaith."
>
> The inquirer was a mentor at heart and said, "That's exactly the child
> I want." And together they left.
>
> Thirty-five years later, the head of the Orphanage Inspection
> Department in the State of Iowa turned in a report about another
> orphanage she visited. Her report said, "This home is outstanding.
> It is clean; the food is good, and the matron of the place has a soul that
oozes love."
>
> The report went on to say, "All of the children are well-cared for and
> show the effects of the matron's love. As they gathered at the piano
> following dinner, I observed an atmosphere unlike any I have seen in
> my work. Never have I seen such love and beauty as I saw in that matron.
> She was so stunning that I almost forgot how homely her face was and
> how unattractive was the hunchback. Her name is Mercy Goodfaith."
>
> Because some nameless person chose to love and mentor an ugly orphan,
> Mercy Goodfaith learned how to love ... and she passed it on to others.
> And that by the way is another factor that distinguishes teachers from
> mentors. Teachers hope you get what they are teaching, but mentors
> want you to absorb it and then share it.
>
> Mentors go beyond education to impartation. And mentors take you
> beyond learning to sowing.
>
> Now if that sounds too soft and touchy-feely for you, hang on.
> Mentors also put correction and challenge into your path. So,
>
> => 3. How does a mentor approach the whole topic of advice?
>
> It's worth looking at. After all, mentors are more than cheerleaders.
> They do more than confirm what you are doing correctly. They CORRECT
> the mistakes you've made and prevent you from making more mistakes in
> the future.
>
> You might call such behavior advice giving. I would call it counsel.
> Advice giving may be no more than telling a person what to do in a
> particular situation, whereas counsel gives people some things to
> think about as they decide the best way to proceed.
>
> It's the difference between giving a person a fish and teaching him
> how to fish. The advice or the fish may take care of today's needs,
> but for an overall, long term, effective approach to life and work,
> you've got to learn how to catch fish for yourself. And a good mentor
> will show you how to do that.
>
> Of course a good mentee will listen to his mentor's counsel. He'll
> sift through it to find the pearls of wisdom. It's the ignorant ones
> who simply accept or reject everything they hear. As one person said,
> "There are two quick ways to disaster -- taking nobody's advice and
> taking everybody's advice."
>
> One of the quickest ways to achieve excellence, to be effective, and
> experience success is to spend some regular time with a wise mentor.
> I know it works for me, and it has worked for millions. In fact, one
> of my former professors, indeed one of the best professors I ever had, Dr.
> Sidney Simon, is now my mentor. We still walk the beaches of Sanibel
> Island just about every month at 6:30 in the morning as I continue to
> learn from him. And I've been meeting with friend and business owner,
> Jeff Larson, for prayer and counsel every week for 18 years.
>
> If you don't have a mentor, get one. And don't worry about imposing
> on him or her. Just ask if they would serve in that capacity, and
> they'll give you a straight answer. In fact, even if they say "no,"
> they'll be honored that you asked. We all admire the wisdom of those
> who come to us for advice.
>
> And due to hundreds of requests over the years, I'm going to start
> serving as a mentor to many of you "Tuesday Tip" subscribers. I'll be
> having a special web site just for you, and I'll be available for fax,
> e-mail, and telephone support. Look for the details of "Dr.
> Zimmerman's Peak Performance Inner Circle" in future "Tuesday Tips."
>
> Action:
> Who has been the most helpful mentor in your life so far? How did
> he/she help you? And in what areas of your life would you like some
> additional mentoring? Be on the lookout for such a mentor.
>
> Make it a great week!
> Dr. Alan Zimmerman
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